Children of alcoholics. Part 4 – emotional life continued

In the first three articles on children of alcoholics we started showing how alcohol abuse by parents affect children’s life both physically and emotionally. There are important consequences of drinking most of the time ignored by people simply because of lack of information and proper education since early ages.

You can read these articles here:

1. Insidious damages inflicted on drinker’s family. Children of alcoholics. (part 1)
2. Insidious damages inflicted on drinker’s family. Children of alcoholics. (part 2)
3. Children of alcoholics. Part 3 – emotional life.

Today we continue with drinking consequences on children’s emotional life. The first article on emotional life showed how very young children and infants are suffering from family violence in general and how alcohol is most of the time the primary cause for such violence. A simple scene of both parents arguing is perceived by the child with much higher intensity than we can imagine and the memory of that feeling does not disappear while he grows, affecting his emotional stability.

In what follows, I will lay down an example (A clinical case) which [...Read the rest of this article at the new location of this blog. Click here...]

Insidious damages inflicted on drinker’s family. Children of alcoholics. (part 1)

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I participated to a group of Anonymous Alcoholics meeting one evening. The topic of the debate was about the troubles and the misfortunes alcohol generates to the Alcoholic himself.

That is, about the problems related to poverty, loss of job, improper qualification and limitation, the feeling of abandonment from the part of the partner or of his own children, the degradation of the person’s social relationship, and the release of his exploitation by the others; the loss of attraction, of stigmatization, fights and murders, driving and domestic accidents or of any other kin.

These have severe consequences such as: invalidity, death, loss of goods, the impossibility of succeeding in his own plans, projects or business affairs, the incapacity to manage his time with the loss of the deadlines, the incapacity to get and to use in his own benefit the outcomes and the success, the conflicts he has with the police, various civil and penal rights implications and many others.

I felt the need to intervene: yes, all these misfortunes frequently happen to the one who drinks a lot. But we are selfish if we complain only about what is happening to us.

Drinking consequences quickly overpass own persona and destroy beings and fates we would have never thought of. I am not talking here about the alcoholic’s partner, although the life spent with an alcoholic is so hard, and it could be understood only by the one who has lived such experience by himself. I neither talk here about the unhappy fate of that non alcoholic family whose parent was killed by a drunken driver on the zebra, after he had gone from the “Beer Festival” by car.

I am talking about children of alcoholics who suffer since before they are born if the mother drinks during pregnancy, who suffer when they are little and the parents fight, who develop most of the time heavy emotional and physical problems due to the fact that one or both of their parents are alcoholics. These children carry a burden all their lives directly inherited from parent’s deeds.

In the next articles we will start discussing the fate of the alcoholic’s children. We will try to list and discuss the damages the drunken persons inflict to their children without even knowing it. Before we start, what are your experiences on this topic ?

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The alcoholic is not responsible for becoming an alcoholic!

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Alcohol is one of the most insidious drugs on earth. It builds the addiction without us even knowing it. Every glass of alcoholic beverage, be it a beer with the friends, or a cup of champagne at a festive occasion, modifies the nervous cells step by step, bit by bit, gradually increasing the appetite for the next glass.

From the first beer which most of the people do not like because of the taste and all the way to important daily quantities of alcohol, we cannot see the appetite increasing. And one day, when in the end we are forced to admit it, we are already ill of alcoholism, and by ourselves and without important help we are unable to stop drinking.

One thing, most campaigns against alcohol abuse fail to tell people:
It does not matter how long you have stopped from drinking. It does not matter if between two beers, for instance there have been months passing. The demand for alcohol by the nervous cells does not diminish in time!
If you take your next glass after three, or six, or twelve months, it will add to the existing appetite for alcohol. The physical demand counter does not reset like in nicotine for instance.

This is why, without proper knowledge and strong education since childhood about how alcohol really works and builds addiction, you cannot be held responsible for the fact that at some point you cannot quit. That point in time is – in most cases – too late to stop drinking without proper help.

This is why, only by developing and maintaining a strong and permanent desire to give up drinking alcohol, alongside with other medical and psychological methods – and not only by ourselves – but with help from others and from specialists, we are able to abstain and regain control over our lives.

Admitting that we might have an alcohol related problem is the first step to recovery. Because alcohol acts so undetected on us, it is good that from time to time we ask ourselves if we have not already developed addiction to it. It’s best to stay alert! Alcohol has tricked many great people into abuse, destroying many lives. Be curious and sincere to ask yourself! Try this self-administered test on alcohol addiction.

Alcohol Help – dealing with drinking problems.

Welcome to AlcoholHelp.

This page tries to bring into discussion alcohol, alcoholism, drinking related problems, addiction, and most important: help directions and solutions, alcoholism treatment methods, what works and what not.

There are numerous popular beliefs about alcohol abuse and its effects. Some are true, some are just myths, and some are so obvious that we overlook them even if they are important when dealing with drinking problems.

When dealing with alcohol addiction, the medical profession is divided by various concepts, philosophical approaches, and – because we are error-prone – why not, numerous missconceptions. Different doctors will give you different explanations and different solutions.

One thing should be kept in mind: there is no final and omnipotent treatment method for alcohol addiction.

The truth is out there and has to be searched with an open mind and the best approaches come with experience in dealing day by day with alcohol related problems for many years.

Like in drugs addiction, dealing with alcohol addiction has some important characteristics to take into account when starting a treatment. We will try to outline and discuss them in this blog.

Do you think you might have a drinking problem? Try this alcoholism self-test in an attempt to find out.

Do you think you might have a drinking problem? Do you have someone dear who drinks too much ? Want to help someone quit drinking ? Are you a student willing to find out more ? Looking for alcoholism treatment methods ? …let’s talk.

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